Love is written in Capital letters, with Gucci being the first word.
The Heavens may fall, coals and brimstones rain on earth. On this hill will I boldly stand, ‘You get the love you think you deserve’.
There are a lot of things that we unfortunately can’t change in life, like how annoying your siblings are going to be or the number of kidneys you get ( some lucky individuals get to have three, imagine the wealth!) and most importantly, how many fishes you get in a can of sardines. Life can be very unfair.
In life and all its unfairness, there is one thing that has been so graciously given to us, it’s our ability to choose how we interact with the world.
The ability to navigate life through the lens of our thoughts, beliefs, values, and undoubtedly our experiences.
Once read somewhere, that as humans we are living in the same world but different realities. We view and navigate life differently based on our worldview, mindset, and societal boundaries.
Have you ever had someone narrate an experience you both shared or a movie you’ve seen and you are convinced that you watched a different movie because of the way they interpreted it?
It can be a really frustrating experience because they are interpreting the movie through the lens of their reality in the world. To you, that might feel wrong but to them, it’s their TRUTH.
Navigating life in search of love and connections can be very tricky. There are different people with different ideas of what love is. Genuine connection can be a mystery to many.
To some, love is long walks in beautiful parks, hands in twined only released to tuck – in fly-away hair strands.
It is long conversations talking about nothing and everything while showing the whole world how effective their toothpaste is. It’s long morning text messages and random text notes saying “ just thought of you” usually accompanied by a cute selfie.
It’s Netflix and chill, roses and petals, a playlist curated for you, kisses on the forehead, love cards, chocolate candies, and meaningful yet thoughtful gifts. Love to them is soft, sweet, and intentional.
To some, love is a date night at La Pastie. Sipping a glass of white wine while gazing lovingly at the view of the beautiful city from a magnificent rooftop.
An apology note spiced up with a trip to Dubai.
A Maybach for Christmas, vacation at Santorini.
Love is written in capital letters, with Gucci being the first letter, and Channel the second. Tiffainy’s diamond is a well-deserved third. And Jimmy Choo’s! Have never looked more excellent at the end of a word. Love to them is expensive, rich, and Dubai.
To some, love is a game. Like a game of chess, only that you are a pawn that can be removed and replaced at any time .Love to them is big and wide ,so much so that It would be too much for one person less they choke on it. So they share, sometimes with two or three people often times more. Like the message of redemption, sharing the gospel wide and far because it would be selfish to keep love to yourself.
Love to them is flirty, inconsequential and their gift to you.
To some, love is pain. It’s the survival of the fittest and like the Homo sapiens, you must fight for it.
Love is a struggle, its endurance. It’s measured by how long you stay when they leave. Your ability to face all the trials that comes your way, as the pilgrim journeying to an unending hope of happiness. Love to them is hard, complicated, and seems to all end with “You are making me do this”.
Each of these people comes with a different version of love, and like buyers at an auction, we pick. We pick based on our beliefs, values, and the lens through which we see the world.
We pick what we think we deserve, what we think we can’t do better than. A deep reflection of our soul and preserved worth.
So when next you go to the market in search of love, before you pick, ask yourself, is this what I think I truly deserve?
Am I not worth more than this to myself?
If you find yourself questioning your choice of love, always remember that you can always say No! No matter how tempting and cheap the love is.
And when you say YES, be sure that you are not seeing love from the lens of your traumatic experience.
Because truly, you get the love you think you deserve.
Ss(soul sister)
